Sunday, April 13, 2008

Can Seperation Save A Marriage

Can Seperation Save A Marriage
Copyright © Jose Love


Sometimes, married life may become extremely stressful and the couple may find it miserable to live together. When this happens, some couples wish to have a trial separation which may help to work through the difference between both the partners. In some cases, separation is prohibited by cultural or religious rules and they prefer to live apart though legally remaining married. The question is that can separation save a marriage and does it really work?

There two ways of marriage separation, either informal separation or legal separation. Generally, informal separation is what you both agree by a mutual understanding. There is a formal division of the property, arrangements about possession of cars, credit cards and bank accounts. A legal, formal separation is more complicated, permanent and expensive. People undergoing the process of legal separation go through time, pain and expense.

Generally, separation is not the first step to save a marriage. Many couples first try to participate in marital counseling which may help to work through the differences. Some couples seek out an advice from the friends, family or religious leaders. Many people are successful in resolving their marital problems after participating in couple retreats or marriage seminars.

Along with these options or after trying these options, the couples choose a trial separation. Now, you will wonder

can separation save a marriage; is it an appropriate way to save a marriage? Yes, it may be helpful as it gives an opportunity to both the partners to experience the feelings of being separated before taking any final decision.

The major advantage of trial separation is that it is reversible.

During the period of trial separation, you may go through marital counseling, think over it and then take the final decision. This separation period gives you ample time to think about your differences, your mistakes, problems in your married life and ways to resolve them.

An absence of daily bickering and conflicts may be an effective answer to the question can separation save a marriage. Due to a lack of proximity, there is absolutely no chance for conflicts. Both the partners get enough time to think over their marital problems. Most of the marital problems originate from fear, ego or stubbornness.

Resolution is possible as long as one partner wishes to keep trying.

The main purpose of trial separation is to develop the skills of resolving the problems before moving back together and working on improving the relationships. For a couple, a planned separation can be a good time to think, to analyze, to reflect, to calm down and cool off. It helps to make thoughtful decisions and thus work to save a marriage.

In some cases, separation may be unplanned and there may be no plans for marriage counseling, no tentative time-line for separation and no guidelines agreed about seeing others. Hence, before you think about separation, talk with each other about the individual goals of separation. Both should be ready for seeking individual and joint counseling during the separation period.

The answer to the question ‘can separation save a marriage’ lies within the person himself/herself; you need to realize how important your spouse is in your life and how life may be without him/her.


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Friday, April 11, 2008

Turn debts into income

Turn debts into income
Copyright © Jose Love


�The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret of getting started is breaking your complex overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks, and then starting on the first one.� - - Mark Twain

This lesson will largely concern financial matters because this is an area where I know from personal experience most people need help. That is not to say it is the most important area or the only area that needs attention but if we are having financial problems it is often difficult to concentrate on other areas of our life
no matter how important.

If you are in the fortunate position of already having no financial difficulties or problems and you are debt free then bear with us, as there are many other important things to learn and appreciate included in the text.

Let us first consider the meaning of 2 words, Happiness & Pleasure.

These are often confused and misused so here are some definitions to ponder:
Happiness is a state of well-being characterized by emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy experienced when in a state of well-being.
Pleasure is the gratification of the senses or of the mind; agreeable sensations or emotions; the excitement, relish, or happiness produced by the expectation or the enjoyment of something delightful, or satisfying.

Amusement; sport; diversion; self-indulgence; frivolous or dissipating enjoyment; hence, sensual gratification.

To put it another way, happiness is a lasting state that can be cultivated and maintained by our mental processes where pleasure is a momentary state caused by some external event. Buying a new car may provide us with pleasure but it may not bring us happiness, especially if the payments are difficult to maintain. Even if bought for cash the pleasure will usually be short lived as we become accustomed to ownership and soon we will desire a bigger, better car or the latest model.

The same applies to almost all material possessions. We want them; if we can�t have them we are saddened and if we do get them we receive only a short term �lift� from possessing them. They do not produce happiness; in fact the obsession of always wanting more will often produce dissatisfaction quite the contrary of happiness.

So one of the first things we should attempt to cultivate is a selection process whereby we ask ourselves not if an action or acquisition will provide us with pleasure, but will it provide us with increased happiness?

"He that loveth pleasure shall be a poor man." - - Milton


To understand this better when you are happy, minor unpleasant events usually do not disturb you. When you are unhappy, you feel as if everything is against you. You may compensate for it by eating chocolate and sweets because this gives you pleasure; yet you stay unhappy.

A person may smoke cigarettes, drink excessive alcohol or take some other form of drugs because it gives him pleasure, yet, this does not make him happier, especially if he acknowledges the fact that it is not be good for his health.

Happiness is the main goal and purpose of life and it is born within us. We do however allow outside events to cloud our happiness as on a cloudy day the clouds hide the sun, but the sun is always there. The clouds of thoughts, worries and desires cover and hide our happiness. We have to disperse them in order to experience it.

Then the happiness that is inherent in the soul and is always there shines forth.

We should always seek happiness as a goal even at the expense of pleasure!

Happiness is here, within you. Just calm your mind and stay relaxed, and you will experience it. You do not need to wait for it to come. You do not need outer circumstances and events to bring it. A calm and detached mind is the gate to true happiness. It is your decision to choose happiness.

So building on what has been said above, let us start to apply this to our lives and specifically in this lesson to our financial situation.

The man who goes alone can start today; but he who travels with another must wait till that other is ready, and it may be a long time before they get off. - - Henry David Thoreau

Now you will need a notebook.

Head a page with �My present financial situation� and put a date.

Remember that compound interest working against you is very powerful and will keep you shackled to poverty. Just a

small $1,000 credit card balance at the minimum payment level will take most consumers 6 years to clear (if no

additional spends are made) and cost around $350 in interest. These figures can be much worse where bad credit is involved or where for some �reason� card interest rates are over 15%.

Credit cards have made it so easy for consumers to �buy now, pay later,� many are finding themselves in a vicious-cycle of �robbing Peter to pay Paul.� With nearly a quarter of Americans having no money left upon paying for essential living expenses, �Americans are among the world�s most cash-strapped people, according to the latest semi-annual survey from ACNielsen�� (CNNMoney, 2006). Unfortunately, debt consolidation and settlement schemes only add to the problem, further damaging a person�s credit and keeping them in debt longer.

�Interest works night and day in fair weather and in foul. It gnaws at a man's substance with invisible teeth.� - - Henry Ward Beecher

Compound interest working for you will help you reach financial independence and faster than you ever thought possible.

Now on a new page put a sub-heading of �Debts�.

Here enter EVERYTHING you owe. There is no need for any special order but the information you set down should contain the information shown below as an example (note that the figures are illustrations only and not meant to be indications of
what you should or may be paying). The term if not in the loan conditions can be expressed by dividing the debt by the repayments and ignoring the effects of the interest:



Debtor�s Name - Outstanding amount of debt - Term-Ignoring-int.-Int.rate-Min.mo.Pmt.-Spcl terms or notes

My Bank Visa - $1,000 - 2 years - 15% - $50


Mortgage Co.- $100,000 - 30 years - 9% - $805 - Variable interest rate

Car Loan - $20,000 - 5 years - 12% - $445


Personal loan/Pal- $500 - 2 years - 0% - $20





Total - $121,500 - $1,320





Now add a new sub-heading �Commitments�

In this section you should put down all regular payments that are made for such items as

Insurances $ 25
Property taxes $300 $ 25

Utilities $150
(use an average for the year)

Telephone $ 80

Rent $600
Motor tax $240 $ 20

Etc. etc.

Total $900



Where these are annual payments add the annual figure but also convert this to a monthly figure as shown above.



Now add the 2 total figures together as �Total Recurring Expenses� in our examples this would be $900 + $1,320

making $2,220.



Now enter your �Monthly Income� after all deductions and taxes. E.g. $3000



This then allows you to calculate �Disposable Income� $780 ($3000 - $2220)



Your Disposable Income is what you have left for such items as food, clothing and entertainment but it is better to

prioritize these items into essentials and non essentials. For example Food is a priority but entertainment is not.

Try to make a budget for the essentials based on current spending as in the example below

Maybe :

Food $250

Gas $150

Clothing $200

Car repairs $ 50



Total $650 This would leave you with $130 for other expenses.



In reality you may have more or less depending on your personal situation. My experience is that IF you take time and care to list ALL expenses then you will
find at this point you have very little left over for leisure and entertainment.



My experience is also that often leisure and entertainment spends are made before the more essential spends and

often for more than the balance available. So at some point in the month there is a realization or panic regarding bills and debts, often expressed as, � Too much month at the end of the money!�



This is a syndrome of putting pleasure before happiness!



Armed with this information � take all the time you need to make it as complete as possible � you can now see just what your current financial position is. I have sometimes had clients who have actually had a negative disposable income at this point. Obviously in the latter case the spending on some items must first be reduced to bring rationality to the budget.



In any event it is now your task to decide on a figure that you will apply to paying off your loans faster than at the minimum level. Make the sum as large as possible but always affordable. It will be a priority and is your escape route from the credit cycle in which the banks etc. wish to keep you trapped!



Getting back to the example above lets decide to use $70 for debt elimination and keep $60 for entertainment and leisure.



Selecting how to best pay off the debts is next on the list.



Selection Rules

1. ALL the extra allotted ($70 in the case of the example) should be used against just 1 loan.

2. The selected loan should be the loan with the shortest term (in the example both Visa and personal loan have the same term, so both are possible candidates)

3.After satisfying 1 & 2 above select the loan with the smallest minimum repayment.



Using these rules the �Personal loan: would now be paid off at $90 a month and so will be paid off in 6 months.

This will then leave you with $90 to apply to the Visa debt which will not have changed much in the 6 months period but will now be paid off in around a further 9 or 10 months. This is a BIG improvement on the 6 years it would have taken!

Now we have $140 to apply to the car loan which will still have around $15,000 left to pay. However at the repayment level of $595 a month this $15,000 will disappear in 2 years 5 months and you will then have $595 a month to add to your mortgage payment.

This will knock 22 years off your mortgage and so that small $70 a month will make you debt free in about 10 years.

Knowing the power of this you may want to use a little less for leisure and entertainment and really get into a debt free situation.

Imagine having no loans to pay off, owning your house and car outright and all in the space of 10 years using just what you have now! You now have $1,400 a month that you can use to create your own nest egg instead of feathering the already too padded nests of the banks and financial institutions.

If you have problems with any of the above use the personal coaching facility provided with this course and get on the road to financial independence now!



Don�t allow ANYTHING to stand in your way.



�There would be nothing to frighten you if you refused to be afraid.� - - Mahatma Gandhi



The future depends on what we do in the present. - Mahatma Gandhi

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5 Ways to Save A Marriage

5 Ways to Save A Marriage
Copyright © Jose Love


Marriage is one of the happiest and memorable moments in our lives. It is a union of not only two individuals, but also of two different upbringings and cultures. After a cheerful start of married life, there might be a possibility or beginning of some conflicts. These may be due to some misunderstandings, ego or other personal
problems. Sometimes the bitterness in the relation crosses the tolerance level that the couples think of getting separated.

However, a divorce affects the personal and social lives of both the partners. You will be surprised to know that your marriage problems can be resolved. Here are 5 ways to save a marriage that can be effectively implemented in your married life.

The first step to resolve the marriage problems is to agree that they exist. You should be honest with yourself, should be able to identify the differences in your relationships and try to improve them. If your try to go away from the issues, they will never be solved. Accept the situation as it is and be prepared for the challenges which may lie ahead.

It is said that you cannot fight the enemy that you cannot see. This philosophy is absolutely true in case of marriages. If you feel that your husband has changed the way of interaction, then find out the reasons behind it.

The best solution is to start the conversation with your spouse and give him several opportunities to ‘open up’.

Keep your ears and mind open for the subtle hints from his conversation.

Saving your marriage is not merely solving the problems. Reigniting your love for each other is one of the effective 5 ways to save a marriage. You can express your passion for your partner with special dates or surprises.

Remember the most romantic times you spent together and recreate them with an addition of a unique approach.

Give some time for each other to share the feelings. The purpose is to grab the attention of your partner and make your relationships healthy with natural attraction. If you are successful in developing the passion for each other,
then other problems can be immediately solved.

There may be many obstacles when you are trying to fix the relationships. It might be difficult for you to communicate with your husband or you may be facing outside pressures from the family which may prevent you to focus on your goals. Even after facing these barriers, you should be persistent on your aims. If one approach fails, you can try another approach that may work. You should be able to handle the conflicts safely.

One of the important steps among 5 ways to save a marriage is to seek the right advice from your friends and

family. You should try to get an expert advice from counseling sessions or books before you take any major decision. A wise advice can save your marriage, while bad advice may ruin it.

Knowing about 5 ways to save a marriage, you would be able to resolve the problems if any in your marriage and live

a happy married life.


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Thursday, April 10, 2008

Child Safety Online

Child Safety Online
Copyright © Jose Love


Many children at a very young age have started using computers and it is one of the subjects that is included in the school’s curriculum. However, before allowing your child to use this he/she should be made aware of the pros and cons of the use of internet. Child safety online is very important and thus it is very necessary to set up some rules that is agreed upon by everyone.

Following are some ideas about child safety online, which can be discussed with the kids to introduce them about the safe rules of the use of internet. Inspire your kids to share there experiences about the internet. Joining them in this activity can also be a great support to your children and will help them build confidence.

One important thing while surfing through the sites is that your child should learn to rely on their inner voice. If they feel that they are not comfortable about anything online is not good they should inform it to you.

Following these child safety online rules can prove beneficial and will encourage your child with the proper use of internet. Quite often, the kid’s visit the internet cafes or the chat rooms for playing online games or video games. Encourage your child to use the services that require a login identity. Instruct your child to not give out any personal information like name, phone number or residence address and even the school address.

It is also important that your kids should learn to respect other people who are online and chat with them in a polite language. They should also be informed about the different between the right and wrong and also made aware that internet is not unreal. Tell your kids to respect others property and not copy others work like copying of video games, music videos etc.

Child online safety also states that the kids should not personally meet any of the online people they chat with. Try to explain them that the online people, like them, do not reveal their identity as per the safety rules.

It is very important to tell your child that whatever they see or read on the internet is not always right. You should also inspire them to ask about anything that they feel wrong about. It is very necessary to keep a track of the child’s internet surfing activity.

Installing the computers with the latest software’s will help you do this job easily by monitoring the various sited that are visited by your children With all these child safety online ideas the task of monitoring your child’s actions can be easy.


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Air Jamaica Vacations

Air Jamaica Vacations
Copyright © Jose Love


Jamaica is one of the finest islands and tourist destinations in West Indies. The island is filled with delicious

food, pleasing music, white sandy beaches and several other things. Air Jamaica Vacations offer a nice opportunity

of turning your dreams of visiting Jamaica into reality with holiday packages to the hottest destinations of Caribbean. During air Jamaica vacations, you will visit most famous destinations like Negril, Montego Bay and Ocho Rios.

Jamaica is the most picturesque beach, as the history, nature and culture smash together in a breathtaking islet and by air, Jamaica vacations would start from the very moment you set your feet on this beautiful land. Tourists can enjoy scuba diving and snorkeling on the beaches of Jamaica and they can rejoice in excellent reggae music and can taste spicy jerk cuisines.

Some major attractions of Jamaica are Doctor’s Cave Beach, Seven Mile Beach, Treasure Beach, The Black River, Somerset Falls and Boston Bay Beach. All these places are worth visiting and are specially known for their exclusive attractions and histories.

Visit Montego Bay during air Jamaica vacations. It is the second largest city near Jamaica and is famous for Caribbean shopping and the fascinating Rose Hall Great house. This island is always full with tourists and vacationers. The Dune’s River Falls is one of the popular attractions there. Tourists can take pleasure in

Snorkeling in the waters near Ocho Rios, which is the incredible, palm lined white sand beach.

There are superior hotels and spicy food stall on all the beaches of Jamaica, where you can tantalize your taste buds. Numerous couples come here to celebrate a honeymoon in the presence of it immense natural beauty. You can enjoy various adventure sports like river rafting and water diving here.

The city of Jamaica is also famous for the finest golf courses in the country. Thus, tourists can enjoy air Jamaica vacations with all these activities.

Air Jamaica vacations offer a nice opportunity of visiting picturesque beaches. Doctor’s Cave Beach is one of the popular beaches near Jamaica. This white sand beach is spread over eight km of lands. Water of the sea is plain, so tourists can enjoy swimming and water sports here. There is a beach bar and changing rooms to change clothes on the beach.

Cornwall Beach is another beautiful beach at Montego Bay. The beach is always full and it is surrounded by white, smooth, sugary sand. The water of the sea is clear; therefore, it is an ideal place to visit with the whole family.

Treasure Beach is one of the most popular beaches, which is sited on the South coast of Jamaica.

Though the beach is always full with travelers, yet it is not suitable for swimming. The booming waves of the sea convert it into the most impressive beach capes of Jamaica.

Somerset Falls are the most amazing falls, where waters of the Daniel River fall down in a deep chasm through a forest. Blossoming vines, foaming flows and beautiful waterfalls surround the place and increase the beauty of the site.


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Tuesday, April 8, 2008

Top Tips for a Cheap European Travel

Top Tips for a Cheap European Travel
Copyright © Jose Love

In the past years, you can already venture into a European getaway with merely $5 in your pocket to spend for your daily provisions. Since the cost was too cheap, there were lots of sacrifices which the travelers had to endure too. Among of those worthy to mention are the need to sleep in the train stations or inside the train cars and the necessity to stay in a cheap hotel wherein the occupants of at least 12 rooms or so had to share one bath.

For sure, you can't afford to make these sacrifices! With the life's comfort we have, it is nearly impossible that you can go back to the practices of the days of yore. At any rate, you must not be discouraged especially if you are really resigned to the prospect of getting into the boundaries of Europe. There are innumerable countries to

visit, so to speak and the good news is that you can grab a cheap European travel package for your most awaited vacation!

Here are some of the top tips that will guide you through your efforts of finding the means to travel Europe cheaply. You can always save money, you know. So, read on!

Avoid the peak season. If you don't want to spend more money on hotel, airfare, food and local transportation then go to Europe when others don’t. European countries websites can give you ideas on the best dates to avoid the crown and save money at the same time.

Try the Open Jaw Ticket. If you intend to visit more places in the continent, you can devise a plan: purchase the Open Jaw Ticket. It means that you will schedule your trip that is bound for a single direction. For instance, you will land in London and then you will depart from another country.

Go to the countries which require cheaper expenses. Western Europe hosts the nations which do not require you to shell out a fortune from your pockets. You can include Greece and Portugal in your itineraries. These places have so much to offer to you.

Be wise with the choice of transportation. You can access the sites in the European destinations either by bus, train, plane, and hired cars. Whichever will allow you to save money must be your choice. Take for instance the case of Spain. The price of gasoline per liter is approximately 80 Euro cents.

If you will prefer car rental, be sure to check the cost of gasoline beforehand. Better opt for the diesel cars when you talk to the car rental agents. They will provide you with more gas mileage and a lot of savings too.

Meanwhile, the rail network of Italy offers cheap ticket prices so if you intend to visit the place, you might as well go sightseeing via the trains. Tickets are available from the well-marked counter booths.

Avail of the admissions cards. Since you will most likely marvel at the museums, you have to check out the admissions cards from the tourist information stations. With these, you can get the discounted rates especially if you plan to tour several museums in your entire stay.

Be precise with your accommodation. Hotels may take advantage of the flow of people and will moreover increase their rates. You have another option, though. Apartments or rented houses will be best for group travels. Therein, you are allowed to cook so you are able to save more.

Chancing upon bargains will seemingly complete your cheap European travel. Hence, it is a must to source out your possible opportunities to maximize the pleasure of this lovely experience.

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Tuesday, October 16, 2007

Accounting For Your Finances Will Take Time

Accounting For Your Finances Will Take Time
Copyright © Jose Love

No matter what type of business you are in,

accounting for income and expenses will become a

primary need you will have to face. Even if you

fail miserably and have no income, you will need to

account to the state and federal tax authorities.

While prior to the electronic age, books were

maintained by hand, usually a 13-column ledger that

helped business owners keep track of expenses and

income, accounting software is now available to

help keep track of your business, and personal

finances.

Some of the accounting software on the market today

may require extensive experience to use, or at

least a lot of time to sit with the user’s guide to

understand how it works. However, there is also

software that is self-explanatory on a basic level

that can be used to help track expenses and income

while writing checks for supplies and, if

applicable, payroll and office expenses.

Some of the better business software can cost

upwards of $300, but is well worth the expense if

you feel your business is going to take off and

plan to have multiple clients and multiple income

streams. It can provide a detailed profit and loss

statement that can also be used to calculate income

and business tax liability. For most small

businesses just getting underway, hiring an

accountant may be financially out of the question

but having decent accounting software can make

keeping track of your finances easier.

It will not matter the quality of your accounting

program if records are not updated on a daily

basis. It may be easy to say that since there were

no expenses or receipts paid that day there is no

need to open the software and make any entries.

Think again. If you are ever tagged for an Internal

Revenue Service audit, any open dates may be seen

as an attempt to hide something. Simply noting that

there was no activity on a particular day into the

accounting software may save a lot of questions

later on.

It is also easy to say you will do everything once

a week and while this is acceptable, when you are

just starting out, getting into the habit of making

daily entries will insure nothing is missed.

Receipts and check records should also be

maintained on a daily basis and at the end of every

month, when reconciling your checkbook, verify the

receipts are available for every expense. Lost

receipts are the biggest cause of paying more taxes

later, because you can’t prove where the money

went.

Even if you use a simple spreadsheet to track

expenses and income, any type of hard accounting

history will help keep you on track and let you

know where you stand where your business plan is

concerned. If accounting shows your income is

running higher than expected, it is time to

celebrate. If lower than anticipated, you will need

to make adjustments in expenses to keep the bottom

line on track.
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